Well honestly,I'm one of those people that's not all that forgiving. Forgiving is Godly and I'm not there yet. I know that I probably should be more open but I've been burned so many times by so called friends taking my kindness for weakness that a repeat isn't an option.
Now don't get me wrong,I've fallen out with friends and not spoken as often for afew months and we reconnect,but they never wronged me. We may have not agreed on some issues but nothing to the extent that we totally lost contact.Never where my kindness was taken for weakness
I see some people say write a letter,I've received afew of such letters,but to me they were feeble attempts to get back into my life.After a while I just filed them in the trash without even opening.
Some like me feel that if I mean that much to you,it should have never happened and the consequence is we are no longer friends.