I think that far too often men are painted with a very general and broad brush with regard to sex.
Marriage for me is very different because I am bonded to my wife spiritually as well as physically.
If my wife is not in the mood I don't necessarily feel unloved by her because I experience my wife as a complete human being not as just a "vagina" whose sole purpose is to serve my conjugal desire.
I think this question totally depends upon the man who is being asked the question.
I have friends who don't feel loved if their wives don't have sex with them for extended periods of time. I also have friends who are like myself who are partnered with their wives in such a way that sex is not the be all to end all.
"We" go through cycles of lots and lots of sex....oh God too much...LOL.....and periods of no sex for extended periods of time.
We are family oriented; 4 sons if you must know and respectful of each others roles and the ups and downs of family living. Our sex lives are dictated by what happens to be happening in our lives at the time.
Neither one of us feels slighted or unloved if the other is not in the mood or if sex is not happening on the average 2 or 3 times a week we are told most other couples are having.
Jesus....i'm honestly just too tired a lot of times and my wife will probably echo my sentiment.
It's funny. Now that I think about it we have sex like some people have alcoholic binges. We just seem to get this craving that lasts about three weeks every fourth month...LOL......ROFL....let's see if I average that out we probably end up at the end of the year close to the average of other couples....