narcissist - inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity; erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes.
A narcissist loves what a person does for their ego. It can appear that it's unconditional love until the person no-longer provides value to the narcissist's ego.
How real is unconditional love anyway? What is the balance between self love and love unconditional love for another?
Answer: Love thy lover as you love yourself.
If you can love thy lover as you love yourself. You are not a narcissist.