The answer for most women will vary depending on their age.
What a girl/woman wants in a mate at 18, 25, 31 or 40+ will likely be different. The same is true for guys/men.
Each of us has our own "laundry list" of what we want in a mate.
However it takes a certain amount of "maturity" and "discipline" to stick to that list. "Chemistry" and "physical attraction" are two traits which are most important during our youth. After a series of bad relationships and heartaches it's not uncommon to hear someone claim all men or all women are no good.
The truth is each of us "selects" our own friends, lovers, and spouse. If you go to the grocery store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead, whose fault is that?
Ideally with experience comes wisdom and hopefully the ability to select better mates for relationships. Awhile back I wrote a hub on this subject matter. Nice guys don't finish last but often times they have to wait longer.