Firstly, realize that everyone heals through different ways and at different paces. And you love each person you love in a unique way; every relationship is different...So pinpoint what the strengths and weaknesses of your time together were, and try to begin to accept that what happened, well, happened. You are responsible for your actions, not your partner's - and I believe after a breakup of a serious relationship means serious SELF time. Focus on yourself, always try to be a better person, especially after a breakup...I think most people are vulnerable to making big mistakes and rash decisions when they're heartbroken. Figure out what you really want in life and go for it. Take time to relax as well, enjoy being yourself and getting to know yourself better.