when i married two years ago, i kept my own name, partly because it was the name on my diploma, and partly because my dad had only daughters and i wanted to keep his name in play. it just seemed natural. also it was easier than changing my name - no paperwork necessary. my husband doesn't care. he just wants to spend our lives together. he hasn't got an ounce of chauvinism.
in an earlier engagement to a very different guy, i had agreed to hyphenate my name if he would, too. he wasn't happy. he also thought it was okay to hit me. the name thing wouldn't have been a deal-breaker. the hitting was. he told me that 80% of guys were just like him. luckily, i only needed one of the feminist 20% of guys. i found him. he's a the sweetest guy, a gem and a keeper.