Well if we trully love then...if they live in our house and are not paying the bills show them the door...Most times people become weak etc because we enable them....My son whom I love very much had no intention of leaving home or working...So I told him at 19 be out by friday. It was hard for me to do.
Anyway He took me seriously and come monday he enlisted in the Army and this august 3 years later he starts collage. By the way we have a much better realtionship because I was true to him and myself.
My son is one example of many situations I have had to face...in the end you have to be cruel so to speak to be kind, but if you trully love them you are helping them, if not then you are enabling, everyone of us has survival instincts...Ok Thats my ten cents...hope it helped
Thanks for asking Mike :0)
Ps Be brave face the giant :0)