1- apologize for words said that went beyond message you wanted to say
2- learn to accept the other as they are, and also not beat yourself up for not being perfect as well
3- therefore love yourself tenderly as much as your spouse and accept human weakness's
4- go for a walk together to a favorite spot for both of you (drive works too)
5- do something together that they enjoy more than you do and enjoy THEM while you are doing it
6- movie or dinner outing (movie could be at home but make your own popcorn and serve it with a glass of soda)
7- invite another couple over and swap partners and watch
LOL number 7 only if you are swingers already LOL
if none of these things work - get a new spouse!
Love - Light - Laughter ............... and Lust!