Technically, I am not a guy........but here goes.
There are few things that I can not handle for myself, do for myself, and figure out for myself.
When those things arise that are too much for me to handle, to figure out, or I just need some muscle, or someone to bail me out............I am committed to calling the same one.
Other men may think differently, but my husband is a ' traveling man', and he is on record as saying, that he appreciates that I can take care of myself.
When I need help, he is only one that I call upon. Not a neighbor, not the hubby of a coworker, and not even a brother..( I have 6 )........when I need a man's skill or know-how, I call my own hubby. It either waits until he can get home, or he changes course and GETS home!
Never, ever, make your partner appear inadequate, when in fact, they are simply unavailable.
It has worked for us for over 30 years.