The concept of "the one" or "soul mate" is based upon our natural reflex to (exclude) rather than (include) when it comes to love.
For example if a person stated "their one" has to be (a member of their own race) that automatically eliminates Billions of people right there!
If you went on to say he/she must have the same religious belief that will cut down your options by billions more.
We then say "the one" must reside in our own state or town. All this is before we get to things such as height, weight, age, occupation, education, hobbies/interest, and goals....etc
Last but not least your family and friends MUST also like him/her and vice versa!
Is it any wonder that by the time we get done EXCLUDING people there is ONLY one "right one" left!
I believe once we decide what is "really important" with regard to traits in a person we'd want to spend our lives with then we are likely to find "the one" sooner rather than later. Being realistic and becoming more mature makes all the difference in the world.
Traits such as being positive, honest, loyal, attractive, considerate, affectionate, financially secure/responsible, dependable, enjoys traveling, great sense of humor....etc
Out of 7 Billion people surly there must be “one” person who fits this profile!
The truth is there are thousands, millions, and possibly billions of people who’d describe themselves as having all of these traits!