Is the depiction of love in movies and on television causing problems in real li

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   Erin Rooneyposted 12 years ago

   Is the depiction of love in movies and on television causing problems in real life relationships?
   
   This could be romantic love, friendship, family relationships, anything.
   
   

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   cmlindblomposted 12 years ago

   I think it puts too much pressure on guys in a relationship. Girls see twilight and long for a vampire of their own. Reality is totally different other then the whole vampire thing. What is sweet in a movie is sometimes creepy in realy life. An example is the notebook. She lefdt him and he was so obsessed he built her house not knowing if she would come back or not. Thats a little wierd.

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   Old Empresarioposted 12 years ago

   Yes, absolutely; I am almost positive that the depiction of love in movies, tv, (and novels) are an underlying cause for most of the problems in real life relationships. There are some other reasons for problems of course, but you make a brilliant point on societal conditioning through media, and thank you for asking this question. Write a book on this subject and I promise I'll buy it.

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   Allen Williamsposted 12 years ago

   I believe there could be an effect on the way people perceive love.  Depending on what the movie is or what the TV show is someone could walk away with high expectations of what love is or what a good relationship is but when that doesn't match up with reality they could be disappointed with their own relationships. That could cause problems.
   
   That doesn't mean that love depicted on TV or in a movie is wrong or that we should ban scenes that show love or different types of relationships. I believe the perception of what someone is seeing or relating to would depend on their own personal life experiences.  Generally anything we view in life or make judgement on is in comparison to our own life experiences.  So we all could have a different outcome of what we get from the movie or TV show based on how we perceive relationships should be or really are in our own reality.

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   HERBERT ubaldoposted 12 years ago

   sometimes yes, because it stimulates you with the story and think deeper for that

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   mkvealshposted 12 years ago

   No, selfish people cause relationship problems.  When two people are putting each other before themselves, issues can always be worked out.

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   iviskeiposted 12 years ago

   I think it depends on the people. If they are expecting something from the movies, it raises their standards and makes it harder to obtain. Little do these people know; movies are influences from real life. Irony~

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   Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

   I think it's interesting that you chose the picture of Giselle (Enchanted - as if anyone doesn't know who she is at this point) for this question; because while Giselle's (and Edward's) original thinking about romance/love was ridiculous, Nancy and Robert had the very common, too-cynical, view that no such thing as true and romantic love (or at least the kind Giselle believed in) exists at all.  They were as off-based as the fairy-tale characters, Giselle and Edward.
   
   So, in answer to your question, I'd say "no".  I think it's more that the "the real world" is too unaware and/or too unwilling to believe that there is such a thing a "real, romantic, love" that last forever.  Instead, people are often told, "Marry your best friend even if it's not 'fairy-tale' kind of love.".  Essentially, people are often told, and often believe, they have to "settle for less" than ideal (and whole).  Art often imitates life. Real love of all kinds exists in real life, and that's what movies often portray.

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   Admiral_Joraxxposted 12 years ago

   I think the problems are not cause by the depiction itself but on the perception of the viewers. It always puzzles me up why topics like third parties in movies are greatly blamed to have influenced a lot of infidelity in the world. Well I believe every time infidelity is portrayed in movies it always comes with the consequences of it and more often than not, the consequences are disgusting. why just can't people learn from the lessons of it, instead of accepting infidelity as a natural tendency of man.

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    Through My Lensposted 12 years ago

    Definetly!! TV and movies portray love as glamorous, as something that you attain, not something that you DO. They show the noun, love, not the verb. Sometimes love is not glamorous, or easy, or fun, or romantic. When things become difficult in a relationship, people get ansy, thinking that it's not like on TV. What you see in the movies is not realistic.

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    Jarnposted 12 years ago

    I believe that most romantic films, comedies and the like, are demeaning toward women. If you look at most of the Sandra Bullock doggerels alone, you see an extremely intelligent, healthy, financially successful career woman who has pretty much pulled herself up from the dregs of society by her bootstraps. But all of this is simply a backdrop. She is worthless as a human being and ultimately unhappy.
    
    Why?
    
    Because she doesn’t have a man to wrap herself around more times than the seatbelt of a New York taxi cab.
    
    I am not in the slightest a feminist, but I do believe in the importance of gender equality. And I believe that a woman who has accomplished so much with her life is a flipping moron if she dares to take such things for granted, all for the quest for love: an elusive and ill-defined quality at best. This is why I cannot freaking stand Sex and the City. It depicts women who don’t realize just how good they’ve got it, and makes them out to be complete airheads in the process.
    
    Just once I’d like to see a romance film that switches roles, with the man being the successful lovelorn one and the woman the slobbish yet surprisingly deep and debonair suave type.

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    PoliCommandmentsposted 12 years ago

    It does.  However, what causes worse problems is the depiction of lust, as though it is love.  Everything is focused around sexuality because sex sells.  Unfortunately, this has caused relationships to become shallow and sex-based, thus allowing chivalry and chaste values to die.

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    Honest Realityposted 12 years ago

    In the short of it...yes. People are attracted to the people they see or read about, but they don't seem to take into consideration that those are just characters that writer's usually make up. A writer can make them look as good or bad as they want and the actor/actress just plays the part.
    It leads to a misunderstanding about "real" people and many disappointments because you will always be let down by real people with real issues.

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    R.S. Hutchinsonposted 12 years ago

    I agree with CM... In my younger years.. taking cues from romantic movies that my -then GF- loved... when we broke up I decided to stand outside her door and profess my love to her while it was pouring rain.. much like the famous "boombox" scene of the 80's... She didn't respond the same.. instead she called the cops and the cops didn't appreciate my "romantic" gesture.
    
    In the movies, the hero ALWAYS knows exactly what to say and always whispers it (LOL).. in real life that doesn't happen. (though sometimes now when i date I whisper to the girl) But the reason he knows what to say is because it's written for him!! He is friggin reading a script!
    
    So absolutely.. for women that cannot discern the difference between real life and fantasy it creates problems because they expect a perfection that doesn't exist. fantasy and reality do not mix because in the movies the woman never calls the cops, she just swoons. Ladies you damn well know if your ex is "stalking" you, you go and call the cops!!! But in the movies "stalking" translates to "oh he must REALLY love you - HOW romantic!!!"
    
    RS for President!!

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    platinumOwl4posted 12 years ago

    Yes, because people no longer can tell the difference between acting and reality. Most people spend so much time watching television and the comedy of the media.

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