You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire......
......They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing he/she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?
I cordially make them aware that the person they are speaking of, happens to be a very dear friend. I do however address my 3 other friends regarding the criticism and ask that they speak with him/her directly. A person should not ever talk about another person, behind there back. I politely ask them to end the discussion and then change the subject to a discussion that is more positive.
When I speak to my friend I do not ever divulge to him/her that there was a very negative discussion that was distasteful or unjustified.