Unless this is a "new trait" he has developed the odds are he was like this (before) you married him. Very possibly it was a characteristic you admired at first. A "take charge" kind of guy. Qualities that attract us initially have a way of becoming turn offs overtime. Here are a couple of options that come to mind.
1. I'm a firm believer that people change when THEY want to change. You can go ahead and sit down with him to explain why you feel he is not treating you like an "adult" who is an "equal partner". (You may want to "blow up" each time it happens from there on) At some point he may come to realize every time I say or do "A" then she does "B". Eventually someone gives up. Don't let it be you.
2. Stop looking for his approval or seeking to compromise. Do whatever you feel is best. In order to be seen as an equal you have to behave as though you are equal. My guess is he does not run everything past you before making a decision.
3. If you rule out options 1 & 2 then you need to ask yourself one very important question, "Why am I staying with a man who treats me like a child and could care less about what I think or feel about things?"
Bottom line: "If you want something different, YOU have to do something different."
"When we change our circumstances change." - Best of luck!