been there done that, totally selfish...
give this a shot instead...
"learn to understand each other.."
books that will help (i have read them, they really teach you a LOT!)
John Kohe - Mind Power (into the 21st century)
The Five Love Languages
Mars & Venus On a Date and Together Forever
these books will teach anyone, male or female what they need to know about the opposite sex and also about yourself as the reader..
i learnt so much more about me that i can resolve most issues with friends family and relationships so much faster, i get results and am always happy.
long distance is hard, but you coul djust ring an say hi hun, how was your day, (let him answer,) then say, you must be tired, would you like to get some sleep and give me a call tomorrow night?
you will need to use the exact 'would you' statement if you want the right result..
anyone living with someone that their partner (man or woman) gets home from work, sits down an doesn't talk, or they argue.. let them walk in, give a hug or kiss an say (to the words of) how was your day? (let them answer while you listen) then ask.. would you like a cuppa.. if they answer yes, make it, if they say no, say OK. and leave it alone.
then later, go to make yourself a cuppa, and ask, hun would you like a cuppa (don't offer alcahol, they just get sleepy or want sex.. and, you do want to talk right?) mos ttimes they will accept the 2nd cuppa offer, usually cos you shocked them at sayin OK the first time, but again, if they say no, just say OK.. and leave it alone..
completely put everything aside the rest of the night, and the next morning (get up earlier if they go to work before you) and ask.. hun, "would you make me" a cupper while you're there..
and leave it alone! they will either say yes or no, if yes, say thank you, make a ibg deal about it and smile.. if they say no, just say OK. and leave it alone!
TRY IT.. ;) oh, an read those books...
2yrs ago, my south african friend was about to leave her hubby.. i told her to do exactly what i put up there.. she did, she came to work the next day shocked that it worked. they are still together and have a 2nd baby. :)