No real life experience here......but, I like to think........
that if for whatever reason my hubby and I parted company........
it would not mean that he and my brother could not still enjoy...( insert all that might apply) hunting, race cars, woodworking
I would HOPE that he would not simply and suddenly dismiss my Dad, who has welcomed him, and treated him as a Son through the years.
It would not mean, that he was no longer able to pull a truck from a ditch......no matter who was driving the wayward truck.
Honestly, no, I do not think that I would want to sit across the holiday table, and make nice, with my former spouse.......I am too little of a person.........but, I would have no resentment, if he found his way and his welcome at the various tables of my family members during a particular celebration. He, too, is worthy of welcome, or humanity, and the celebration of memories and yesterdays.
Yes, I would, indeed hope, that even though he and I no longer desired to be committed, he would still find friendship within my family. He has been a part of it so long, he deserves his place.
Though, I would probably prefer not to meet his lady friend, it would be nice to hear from the family grapevine, that he has one. I have adored him far too long, to wish him lonliness and an empty life.
No matter our differences, or the thing that tore us apart, would I ever, dismiss him from the lives of our daughters and grandchildren. I would suck up and bear some discomfort, so that they might celebrate and enjoy their special moments in life.