For the longest time, though I hoped to meet "Mr. Right," in my heart of hearts I was sure this was an absurd idea, and that such a person was merely a fantasy. I was sure that all relationships were fraught with difficulties, and that the only way for any of them to succeed was to pay the required dues in trials and tribulations, fights and negotiations. That happily ever after was the end of a fairy tale, not real life.
Then the man of my dreams fell into my lap. I feel so very lucky I never "settled." Though there are tougher days, this relationship has been a dream of ease, comfort, home and companionship. Anyone who knows me well knows how seemingly impossible such a thing could be for me!
I read somewhere once that we meet the right person 4-6 times in our lives. I now believe that there are indeed people who are more right for us than others, with whom we are on the same immediate wavelength, and that we must not make an immediate decision about who they are or are not. Creating a laundry list of characteristics for our perfect mate stymies our quest to meet them. We need to tear up our lists, keep our antennae tuned, be open and vigilant.