Ladies, would you marry a "mama's boy"? When you get married, should your wife a

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   Libra Rajaniposted 12 years ago

   Ladies, would you marry a "mama's boy"? When you get married, should your wife always come first?
   
   Many women complain that they don't want to marry a "mama's boy" because their mother has a significant role in the marriage. However, some say the opposite. "If he treats his mother well, he'll treat me well." Is the way a man treats his mother an indication of the way he will treat his wife?

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   I would hate to be with a full-time mama's boy, like the kind from Italy. There are so many of them, they even came up with a special name for it. Even with the couple is married, the husband still sends his laundry to his mother every morning. Most of the men don't get married until they are in their 40's.
   I would not even consider dating a full-time mama's boy. They will not have you first, they will focus on their mama's happiness over your own. She is what gave him life and has always been there for him. What are you? Just a female he met.

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   Treating one's mother well does not make him a mama's boy.  It means he is kind and loving.  A husband's first responsibility is to his wife--so if a man quotes his mother all the time, or talks about what she likes or thinks too often-run, run for the hills.

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   fpherj48posted 12 years ago

   Many years ago, I reluctantly began a relationship with a 40+ yr. old man who "lived with his parents."  I accepted this weird situation at first because I could see that his parents helped him immensely with caring for his son when he could not be there.  However, I soon learned his "attachment" to his parents went way beyond that. In my opinion it was an extreme example of the classic Dysfunctional family.  A true "Mama's Boy," is the man to AVOID at all costs.  YOU will never be number one.....which will ultimately be the undoing of the relationship.  Men should LOVE their Mothers.....but once married, his wife must absolutely come first.  Beyond the age of 25, the umbilical cord cannot be severed!

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      Beth37posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Absolutely!

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   gryphin423posted 12 years ago

   If "mama's boy" means he doesn't know how to cook, can't do his own laundry or help clean the house then no, not husband material. However, if he is caring and loving towards his mother, then no problem. I do believe how a man treats his mother, sister, aunt, grandmother is a reflection on how he will treat you. And the wife should definitely be the priority, she raised him and needs to let him have his own life.

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   Beth37posted 11 years ago

   Parents need to get out of the way and let their children become adults. Sons need to be respected by their wife and children and many times aren't b/c they always look like a kid in their family's eyes. Daughters end up caught between their parents and their husbands. Mothers and Fathers both need to love their kids, but let them go.

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   jeffduffposted 11 years ago

   Ladies, I think you are missing a great opportunity by NOT marrying an adult mama's boy!
   
   A mama's boy has been pre-conditioned to obey orders from women and stay home every evening of the week.  No further training required! 
   
   An adult mama's boy has been thoroughly trained in the Fine Domestic Arts: empathetic listening and a strong desire for self-improvement.
   
   He's perfect husband material !

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      Beth37posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds a bit more like a pet.

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      jeffduffposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Beth37, I couldn't have said it better myself.

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   LoisRyan13903posted 10 years ago

   My brother lives with my mother but I would not call him a Mama's boy.  He cares for her since she is in her early 90s-she is very healthy and active for her age.

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