I have found that you must make use of as many resources as possible. Books like Codependency No More by Melody Beattie, the Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner, Facing Love Addiction by Pia Melody, The Homecoming by John Bradshaw, online resources from Melanie Tonia Evans Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Empowered Love, and Guided Imagery resources from Patti and Chuck Leviton can all aid in recovery from relationship addiction. Some say it is easier to recover from a heroin addiction than from relationship addiction. Most of all, if you believe in God, know that He does not want His children to be addicted to anything. I personally believe that although the Christian Church has failed miserably in dealing with the issue of relationship abuse, God has led me to the secular resources that have helped me, and showed me how to apply these principles to my life in a biblical and spiritual way that does not contradict my spiritual devotion to Christ. I hope this answer helps.