Well, marriage would probably top that list, but it wouldn't be the only thing there. Moving to another city where I knew nobody and had no job was another. Having children (when I was on birth control!) was another - and probably the most significant because when I split with their dad, I *also* tried to avoid them feeling like they were put in the middle of unresolved conflict.... If only he'd done the same, sigh Finally, joining the Army might have been another, except I at least knew I'd have *some* benefits from it.