It never ceases to amaze me how so many people will get married without figuring all this stuff out beforehand.
I guess the simple answer, for all those who are about to get married or who are thinking about it, is to talk about marital expectations beforehand. Studies have shown that when people discuss things prior to marriage and reach certain agreements, that they are likely to make good on those agreements throughout the marriage.
I have found that most surprises in a marriage can give one an ulcer, so the more that is planned and discussed before marriage, the less anxiety one will have to suffer later on.
Having said that, I think if someone is in a loving marriage, their attitude should be one of warmth and adoration, not servitude and resentment. I think how we define what we do, has a lot to do with how we end up feeling about it. If you feel like a maid, you will feel like an employee within the marriage and that can lead to resentment. But, if you feel like a loving and conscientious spouse, then perhaps you will not really even notice those extra little things you do for a loved one.
If sparks are beginning to fly, I would definately sit down with your husband and talk about this issue. It's always better to get things out in the open than to let things fester.