For the most part we cook and eat our own meals according to our different schedules. As for housework she has "her way" of cleaning which she thinks is better than mine. In fact she doesn't care for the way I put dishes in the dishwasher. LOL!
Oddly enough when I lived alone I always got compliments for my clean place.
Instead of fighting over "the right way" to do something it's just easier to let her do things her way. I unload the dishwasher, make the bed, clean the guest bathroom, vacum the stairs, and take out the trash. We have no children.
It wouldn't surprise me if there were other couples where one partner is very "particular" about methods of cleaning that causes their mate to let them do it their way. I once dated a woman who had to have towels folded in thirds and the sheets on the bed had to be done with hospital corners. Once I caught her remaking the bed and re-folding towels. Needless to say I let her do all the housework. At the time I was in my early 30s and found it rather insulting. I still believe she was displaying borderline obsessive compulsive behavior. No adult wants to be told the way they have doing something for years is "the wrong way". If someone can accept help from their mate without issuing "instructions" they're more likely to get more help. One man's opinion! :-)