My wife gets mad when I mention my theory on lovers and best friends, but I tell her that a best friend and a lover have two very different roles. My wife is my friend and much more than my best friend, but who do I talk too if my wife upsets me and she is my best friend? There are more contentions to my argument, but I want to hear what you have to say.
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True, but sometimes you need to vent to someone else besides your partner, right?
True, but I rarely do that, unless the person I am venting to is a person with marriage experience or a counselor. I am not for telling everyone my information, even to vent. People can give you the wrong information.
Your points are well made. What about maintaining balance in one’s life? Is there a risk that a couple might isolate themselves from the world? Is it feasible that your best friend can tell you truths a spouse could not (yep, your butt looks fat)?
Oh sure, I'm all for balance. Guys usually need guy time, Women usually need time out with other women, etc. I'm just a proponent of full and open communication within the marriage.
I agree with full and open communication, but would it surprise you that some Marriage Counselors say that there can be too much communication in a relationship?
I have never told my wife that she is not my best friend in a fight, but your point is valid one.I believe that your best freind and one's spouse play two different roles in one's life. You tell your husband everthing you would tell a best freind?