What are the ups and downs of raising a child when you are a single parent?

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   arrowgreenposted 11 years ago

   What are the ups and downs of raising a child when you are a single parent?

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   Keith Hamposted 11 years ago

   Ups being that you are most likely going to have complete say in how a child is raised. The biggest down is that the child will have a difficult time when they grow up, not in all cases but some.
   
   I grew up practically without a father, he only showed up drunk, and with a extremely abusive mother. Things were never easy and I can't say I didn't ever act out. I'm a little effected still, my anger and stress levels get extreme, but I can't say I'm not happy with the person I am today.

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   jesupmanposted 11 years ago

   I would like your definition of a single parent.  Do you mean single as in never married to the child's parent or do you mean divorced?  If divorced, are you actively involved in the child's life or are you just a cash cow?  I speak from being divorced from my son's mother.  She divorced me because she wanted to be addicted to the internet and became a sex addict.  I am still involved in my son's life as much as possible.  However, his mother is telling everyone that she is a single mother.
   But to answer your question, being not married and living in the same household as your child is very damaging to the child. A child needs both parents to learn from, not just masculine or just feminine traits.  A child needs to see love from his parents and how to treat others. 
   I really believe parents should thing long and hard before they become parents to make sure they are going to be together for the long haul.  You are supposed to get married for life and, even though my wife divorced me, I would still be married to her because I believe in it.

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