I have always had self-esteem issues. They aren't as bad as they use to be but they are bothering me again because my fiance is going to some concert thing (Rover's Morning Glory) and I know there will be women there drinking and wearing little clothing. I just keep thinking he will be drooling over them girls and if one happens to like him, he may leave me for her. He tells me all the time looks aren't everything and he loves me and he's attracted to me but I can't compete with drunk girls who are practically naked. He's a man. I don't dress that way or drink. I want to stop feeling this :(
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lol--- every man likes porn. I like porn. how could you not like porn? I learned most of my moves through porn. Sorry D. of Matt, I stopped reading at "two girls together does nothing for him" ... but yes I agree; you can tell by the look in their ey
Not every guy likes porn. The ones who do, often can't see how another guy could not. The same is true of football, which I find horribly boring to watch.
Sex is common--football is not. At some point in our lives we've all watched porn and its not just for personal satisfaction! If you have an open mind then im sure itll help spice up ur sex life. especially if youve been together for years..
I'm with kwade on this one. Not all men like porn, there are still a few out there who don't. Many who don't like porn can't understand how others do. So it works both ways. Both he and I find football boring! And not all sex lives need spiced up. :D
Tom, did you just tell Brittles to have sex with her fiance before he goes out? If so, you seem to have your head in the gutter.
i gave her my honest opinion for a plausible (dare I say) logical solution plenty of folks who will gladly give her flowery unusable pablum...
I agree with a tom a little bit. her mind is in the gutter as well. shes about to not let her boyfriend enjoy his young adult life due to her own insecurities. Its not fair to neither one of them!
If he's the kind of guy who'll cheat on her, does't matter how much they have sex first.If he won't cheat on her, he doesn't need bribes to stay faithful.
Since he's made a promise, this is more than enjoying "his young life" It's about trust.
I agree with Catherine Kane, but don't you think that - the fact she doesn't trust him-enables him not to trust her, thust--making him do something he might regret? Jealousy and Mistrust can make a person do stupid things....
I'd agree that jealousy and mistrust can lead you to do dumb things, but I don't think that's something that pre-emptive sex will fix.
I think she needs to decide if she trusts him. If yes, act like it. Also needs to get serious about selfesteem
always look forward to read what you have to say-- you're so insightful.
the point is ( whoever voted me down) is that you cant be afraid to be a woman and you cant be afraid to let your man be a man. who are we really if we are not free to be ourselves?
Its true that we each need a little time to enjoy who we are and what we like. I think your comment was great up until the stripper movie. Then it kind of got contradictory and doesn't help the situation. Activity is good, just be careful what it is.
I don't know. I think that a relationship that starts out with mistrust and little head games is a relationship that's really at risk. From personal experience, you'd do better to talk it out with him.
I agree wtih Catherine Kane. Playing games with your fiance like that is wrong and only leads to bad situations. Start off with honesty and communication. Tell your fiance how you feel. Work it out together and don't be afraid.
typo- I meant in the second paragraph where I say let him go, I meant let "it" go, like let the worry go. Sorry, I by no means meant to say to ditch the guy.