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Can a person change because a partner or a lover wants him/her to?


Can a person really change another person? For example in a relationship can the woman change a man - meaning change his attitude or behavior. Or is it that people don't really change at all except when they like to and not because of their partner.

 

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Columba Smith (Collisa) says

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    alexandriaruthk 5 years ago

    I like what you're suggesting only that some people need encouragement. A good positive as well as a little bit of encouragement is perhaps good, isn't it? Not nagging.

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    alexandriaruthk 5 years ago

    Fair enough, I like what you said about showing them that their behavior is not productive, could do it. Building freindship while in a relationship is a challenge! Thanks for your time.

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    alexandriaruthk 5 years ago

    Well, I was thinking no relationships are perfect and perhaps I might as well think about whether I can live with the imperfections instead of trying to change other person. Thanks for replying to this question.

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    alexandriaruthk 5 years ago

    Well maybe if you really love that person, you will encourage him/her to change because it is for their better. like you said the point is why now and why not just love me for who I am. Thanks for your comment mam!

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    alexandriaruthk 5 years ago

    But it is rather too late because they left already? Is there some kind of compromise, while the other one is trying to become a model, there should be effort by the other partner. Thanks for your comment.

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    alexandriaruthk 5 years ago

    Fair enough, the change needs to come from them voluntarily, not just because they love you and they that you have a point. Friends and relatives can encourage them as well but like what you said it can be construed as a controlling behavior. Thanks.