If you are single, are you content? If you are content, what is your secret?

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   Mekenzieposted 11 years ago

   If you are single, are you content?  If you are content, what is your secret?

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   JThomp42posted 11 years ago

   I am, And no I'm not. Hopefully, Someone will have the secret.

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      Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I hope you are finding some secrets here in the comments.  ((wink))

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      JThomp42posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I really am.

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   kallini2010posted 11 years ago

   I think the secret is in content.  If you are happy with yourself, you have more chances of finding love.  Because you have already found it.
   
   Sharing it with someone is secondary, soul search is primary.  We look to complete our lives through the loves of or for others, but the secret of happiness in ourselves.  Therefore the secret is content.
   
   Am content alone?  I am more content now than I was when I was married.  I would love to find a relationship with someone who will not uproot my balance, but will complement my life and appreciate it.  If not, fine, so be it.

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      Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      kallini,  sounds like you are in a very good place.  Content as you are yet open for the right person.

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      huntnfishposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't agree more. Very well stated

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   As the saying goes; "Wherever you go there you are."
   Having been single and married I have to agree with kallini2010 "If you are happy with yourself" you are content.
   People who enjoy life and pursue the things they enjoy tend to attract others easily. When I was single if there was movie I wanted to see I'd go see it, if I wanted to eat at a restaurant I'd go alone if none of my friends were up for it, go to the gym alone, stroll through the mall or wherever to people watch...etc I went out to "happy hours"  and nightclubs alone numerous times. In fact I often met more women when I went out alone than I did when I went with friends. In those days we didn't have iPods but if I felt like taking a book to the beach or lay out at my apartment complex swimming pool I'd listen to music on my Sony Walkman. I can honestly say I've never looked for a "serious relationship". All of my serious relationships began as casual relationships and evolved overtime. My advice is be yourself, have fun, and do whatever it is you enjoy doing. Don't be afraid to engage in conversations with strangers on general topics. Life is good whether you're single, dating, or married if you love yourself!

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      Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your thoughts.  A whole person who has learned to love and care for themselves will have much to offer their beloved should they marry.

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   teacherjoe52posted 11 years ago

   I am very happy being single.
   Why are you looking for a husband ha ha
   When we have Jesus, that is all the contentment I need.
   Most married people I have met are miserable.

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      Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      teacherjoe,  Actually I am married but have been asked to speak to singles about contentment in Christ.  You have learned the secret I see.  Marriage requires humility and very  hard work.  Most are not willing .. so are miserable.

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      Crissyliteposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I'm married & have joy in my relationship with my husband. I think many married couples are miserable because they marry before they find contentment as a single person first...and marriage takes dedication.  I'm glad you've found joy in Jesus.

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   JBrumettposted 11 years ago

   Hmm,  I'm single, but it's pretty much my own fault.  I went to Iraq in 2004-05 and came back pretty pissed off at the world, and kind of took a few years to stop beating myself up. Then, I kind of just calmed down and started doing productive stuff. Now It's about working and get myself back into a position where I can eventually date and stuff.  =-P

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      Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      JBrumett, first of all thank you for your sacrifice in serving our country.   Our soldiers pay a huge price and there are so many going through what you describe here.  I commend your wisdom in waiting on a relationship for time to heal.

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   Jenna Kuncposted 11 years ago

   I am a young single woman, and I wouldn't have it any other way. One thing that mentors have told and that I have learned myself is that I need to be a whole person before I invite someone else into my life, whether that means traveling, pursuing hobbies, or just relishing my alone time. If I feel incomplete and go looking for someone to fulfill me, then of course that isn't going to work. There is no perfect person that can be everything for me... and of course, that's where Christianity comes in, doesn't it? Instead of looking for relationships with people to fulfill me, I'm learning to turn to Christ.

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      Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Jenna, You are a very wise young woman. It is clear you have learned the secret of contentment.  I am pleased to hear you turn to Christ for fulfillment.  I agree with your statement that you need to be whole before inviting someone into your life.

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      Jenna Kuncposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      In a book I just read and hubbed about, there was a good quote that related to this: " Why was she thinking of choosing a man who could make her whole? How could she do that when she didn’t yet know who she was in the world?"

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   jay2018posted 11 years ago

   Good morning ma'am. I contented of what i am in the present and up to the future. the secret that i have is that follow your heart says and  we all know that god has a good plan for you for the future. Don't lose hope just trust in him. godbless

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      Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Good Morning Jay, God does have good plans for our future.  Thanks!

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   Free2writ3posted 11 years ago

   I am single and yes, it its lonely at times but I try to stay hopeful that someday I will find that special someone. I have good and bad days.

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      Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You are not alone Free .. Thanks for your input.

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    MissyLou30posted 11 years ago

    Yes, I'm single. But being content with it varies from day to day. I say this because of all of my friends I am the only one without children ot married. I can say that I am content because I don't have to deal with anyone but myself and I don't have to worry about how a decision is going to affect a partner or children.

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       Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       It is good that you can see the positives of being single.  Life is less complicated and you can pretty much make your own decisions without having to consider how it would affect your spouse or children ... I get it!  Thanks for your comment.

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    Rebecca2904posted 11 years ago

    I think the secret to being content doesn't lie in whether you're in a relationship or not. It's more about whether you think you're a good, kind person with good friends. I also think it's about being a fulfilled person, and I think there are many ways to go about becoming one. If you're not content then I think it might be easy to lay the blame on being single, but I think you should also have a look at the rest of your life. Is you job fulfilling, or do you look at is as a chore, a way to pay the bills? We spend so much of our lives at work, so it's really important to make sure you're doing something that you feel is worth your time in a place that makes you happy. You could also find fulfillment through volunteering for charity, getting truly involved in a hobby you love... or, well, countless other things!
    If you're not content when you're single, then I think it's quite unlikely that you'll suddenly become content if you find yourself involved with someone. Sure, at first it might be great, romantic, fun, and all the other things you could want from a relationship, but once you've been together for a while the shine will wear off and you'll probably realise that you're still not a content person, you're just a less lonely one now.

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       Mekenzieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Wow Rebecca, such wisdom is held in your comment.  I believe you are spot on.  Contentment comes from being a whole person & learning to accept and love yourself first.  If you want to find the right person you must first BE the right person. Tha

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