Ok, so your parent dies that is taking care of your sibiling unexpectedly. You have noticed her sibiling being rather disrespectful. She takes the children you are now responsible for out after 9pm and does not think to ask you. You have noticed little disrespectful behavior, as you have asked several times for her to respect others and keep her conversation down. Finally, you say after literally 8 times, "Shut the hell up!" She hears you then, but the lack of respect continues, now she wants to leave and take the children with her three 1/2 hrs away, what do you do, how do you set boundaries?
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Thanks for your input, I hate asserting authority unless its absolutely necessary, because we're all adults, but I am solely responsible for my sister, daughter, and aunt. Didnt think of it as we were all thats left of Mom. Thanks.
You can do it in a non-aggressive way, though.
I know, it was just the blatant disrespect over and over (8xs) I snapped! I will do better next time though. She is the type that talks over ppl and talks around them.
I know what you mean. I know someone like that. You can only do what you can. If she can't or won't listen, just put yourself first. At least you know you did your best.
Exactly, guess it doesn't help I was named after her (thanks Mom) so she feel like I'm her's in a way. Smh, our bday's are two days apart, what a difference 2 days make, lol. Im Brittany Vanessa (means strong butterfly), she just Vanessa.
Thanks, she is a handful, I think you may have hit the nail on the head, hadn't thought of that, but I know what Mom thought of alot of things/people and I am trying to be sensitive to all parties, but I'm on human. Thanks.
I agree, this is an issue my Mom had with her as well, she told me I'm not fighting with you, too! I'm don't not fight unless defending myself. She is very unreasonable, but I think she got most of the point yesterday, when I put my foot down. W.I.P.
She is my Mom's older sister and I'm responsible for baby sister, daughter, and aunt now. Thats my stance I just hate having to do that to an elder, but it has to be done.