What is your best advice?

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   Cristaleposted 11 years ago

   What is your best advice?
   
   Child custody battles are tough on people's emotions. What is the best advice to give some one going through a custody battle?

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   MamaBambieposted 11 years ago

   Even if they don't get custody, they don't need to worry.  While they may miss out on the small stuff (if they lose complete custody) as long as they keep in their childs life, their child will seek them out when they become old enough.  (This is coming from a woman who did not grow up with either parent)

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   SEXYLADYDEEposted 11 years ago

   Never put your children in the middle of the battle.  They are half of both of you.  Whatever you say negative about your counterpart can reflect on how they see themselves.  Don't make them choose.  They are supposed to love you both.  Even if he's a deadbeat Dad or she loves her job more than being a Mother.  Let your children be, children, don't take their childhoods from them by filling it full of pain and anguish.  It lasts such a short time, let them be children.  Never lie to them but don't put them in the middle of an adult conversation or debate.  Don't have knock down drag outs in front of them.  No matter what the two of you are going through, love them like your lives depend on it.  In case you didn't know, it does. Good Luck, Dee.

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   I would have to say despite the animus one may feel for their ex, stay kind to each other.  You will soon be out of each other's lives so petty bickering does no good and hurts everyone.  Stay kind and patient so that the children feel secure and can make an easier transition.

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