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If you do all that you can for your wife or husband and it isn't good enough, then what do you do?


In the same vein as the Japanese grandmother, allow me to ask, "if you do all that you can to please your wife or husband, and that isn't good enough, then what?"

 

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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    I appreciate this resonse so much. I have, for years, been a "doer," to make my mate approve of me and love me, but many's the time that I only end up disappointed. You have helped me, tirelesstraveler, and I love you for that.


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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    I've been told that "I" meet her needs, but still, I seldom get any thanks or approval, but a lot of "why didn't you do it that way?" and things. Oh well. Praise God anyway.

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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    ChristinS . . .you are so right. And I cannot make anyone LOVE me either. Guess I should just do my best and live with this personal failure.

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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    SmartAndFun, sadly, I have done this, spoken in kind words and honestly, some loud tones, but not profane, and it still remains the same. I hate the axiom, "I can't win," for that is the confession of a self-proclaimed loser. I just want to be loved.

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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    I heard that. And you are also right. I guess I am just going to learn that NOT all that I do for my mate will ever be good enough. Not a deal-breaker, but honestly, hard to deal with at times.

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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    Nicely-said, duffsmom, and I thank you.


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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    Dear peoples, Im afraid that you are right. Thanks for the honesty.

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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    lupine . . .you are so right. All I can do is all I can do. Thanks for your comment. Take care and love you for that warm response.


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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    hi friend, true, but when it means ALL FOR THE PARTNER, and none for the doer or giver, what then?

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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    DDE, thank you, but I have given all I can to this one person. I have not that much of ME to keep for myself. But thanks so much for your input. I appreciate YOU.


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    Kenneth Avery 5 years ago

    Thanks, Starmom, you hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately, when I talk to her like this, civil, sane, and quietly, it does no good. So I just need help in accepting that not all women are as nurturing as some. Thanks.


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