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How do you deal with a slur on your character that you cannot disprove?


How do you deal with it psychologically, when someone (in this case a relative) casts nasty allegations against your character and actions and - because there's no tangible evidence - you have no way of proving them wrong in their beliefs? A situation like this can be immensely hurtful and frustrating.

 

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Alan R Lancaster (alancaster149) says

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    Greensleeves Hubs 5 years ago

    Unpleasant situation alancaster - how sourness and snide remarks can damage or even ruin a life. One has to be very strong in mind and self-belief to brush off comments like that, and not everyone can, even if innocent. Thanks so much for sharing.

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    Greensleeves Hubs 5 years ago

    Too true Express 10. It's difficult to maintain distance at present as we have to communicate over estate matters following our father's death, but certainly I guess one has to gain strength from loyal and trusting friends and ignore the negatives.

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    Greensleeves Hubs 5 years ago

    Thanks Rosana. Great reply. Sadly I have to deal with him as we have my dad's estate/will to sort out, but I'll try to do as much as possible thru' the solicitor (attorney) involved. I guess it's human nature tho' to want to be believed and trusted.

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    Greensleeves Hubs 5 years ago

    Everything you say I concur with Mazzy. Your words fit the situation perfectly. The problem is mainly with my brother, but I get on well with his grown-up children, my nephew and neice. But of course I can't entangle them in our dispute. Great answer

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    Greensleeves Hubs 5 years ago

    Thank you Pamela. It's not easy just at the moment to distance myself because of a forthcoming will reading and estate management issue after our father's death, but your advice is very sound. Many thanks. Alun.

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    Greensleeves Hubs 5 years ago

    darkland I appreciate that. Some of what you say is more true to this case than you may imagine, including the point about refocusing on the present - exactly what I tried to do during a phone conversation on Sunday. Good and thoughtful words friend


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    Greensleeves Hubs 5 years ago

    Thank you so much duffsmom. Relations are more or less cut off except that currently we are going thru' the handling of my late father's estate, and that's difficult, as some consultation is essential. But your comment is valid and very warm. Thanks.

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    Greensleeves Hubs 5 years ago

    Thank you Borsia. I appreciate this answer after an unpleasant phone call today which has led to a very stressful day for me. I guess one has to gain strength from one's true friends and ignore as best as possible those who think ill of you


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    Greensleeves Hubs 5 years ago

    I should say I'm not in the States, but in the UK, but that's no matter - your comments are touching and encouraging, and you are so right - people who cast aspersions are usually judging others by their own low standards - My thanks to you.