Have you experienced a situation in which you cannot prove your innocence of improper behaviour (in this case family financial relationships) even tho' you know in your heart you have acted correctly?
sort by best latest
Thanks mindyjgirl. I've written a couple of letters to try to explain my actions, but my explanations have been largely ignored. I agree though it is best to try to clearly put your points in a letter rather than getting involved in a shouting match.
A very nice answer. An on-going dispute and an unpleasant phone call today prompted this question. As I am someone who suffers from stress I hate this kind of situation. It can certainly ruin one's day thinking about it! I appreciate your words.
It is best to ignore those who criticise without good foundation. It's not always so easy because hurtful comments get inside your head and it's difficult to stop that, but you're right about trying to avoid them as much as possible. Thanks.
Lots of thanks for those words of support. One does have to just try and stay calm and rise above false allegations. Appreciate your comment very much.
(Mothers, beware. I know this is off topic and I could get the boot for it.) Have you heard of the phrase C Y A ? We can also be proactive in life. Your question reminds us the Importance of being proactive in protecting ourselves.
Libby, that's an awful situation both for the people directly involved and for relatives. I guess you have to try to think the best of someone and give the benefit of doubt unless you have strong reasons for believing otherwise? Thanks for sharing.
This reply seems the right way to approach it, pretty similar to what SidKemp says elsewhere. I guess just to maintain one's integrity, self belief and correctness of behaviour is all one can do.
Absolutely right that whatever the consequences, if the intent is good and right, then there should not be too much in the way of recriminations. It's a good philosophical approach to coping with problems when people think you've done the wrong thing
Certainly frustrating bac2basics, but philosophically I guess it's true that if you can't do anything about what other people think then it's best to just ignore it and let them get on with their lives, whilst also getting on with your own. Cheers.
Thank you Kathryn. I don't very often ask questions on HubPages - I prefer writing hubs or answering questions than asking my own - but the response here has been quite heartwarming.
Thank you LanaLu for a well considered answer. The last part of it hopefully applies to the case which prompted this question, because it's not an issue which should lead to a court action, but all your points will be helpful to myself or to others
Trying to make a fresh start, being positive and forgetting the past and living for the future is an inspiring suggestion. Thanks. Coincidentally in view of your comment, my problem is related to the death of a parent and matters of estate management
It's hard not to worry about it but it is the best policy to adopt if possible, if one cannot do anything else about it. Your words all show good sense. Thanks.
Thank you msorensson. One has to keep a conviction of the moral high ground to rise above false allegations
Thank you sarmack. Your supporting words are warm and encouraging.
Thank you pmcminn for commenting. It was good to hear your thoughts on this question. Welcome to HubPages by the way - hope you enjoy writing here. Alun.
Thank you christianesk. I am not myself religious, but I am sure others who have been in this situation can gain much support from their faith. Indeed it is the kind of situation where I can envy those who do have faith.
just watched the Stoning of Soraya...and saw in this obscure Iranian woman the Jesus on the Cross, without sin or fault, but knowing she could do nothing but lay down her life. Innocence has its own justice and I trust it with my life. We must not
Thank you for your comment. By your criteria I would classify my experience of this as abuse. Thank you for your 'quote'. Although I am not religious, I do recognise that the Bible has something of value to say on most matters, including this one.
Thank you danielabram - I appreciate that - it is true I think. Like a previous contributor pmcminn, I see you've only just joined HubPages, so I wish you the very best on the site.