I ask because someone asked a question about how to handle bullies and an answer was to treat them with compassion. The person saying it has a truly wonderful heart and very smart mind from what I've seen. I on the other hand prefer to avoid people who are bullies/prone to harassing people or fight fire with fire if needed. How about you?
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You said it best when you said "may you be free from suffering." I cannot allow myself to be hurt by others, there is no need to self-sacrifice for pain that you don't even deserve. Great answer.
I wish this were true. But, shen bullied in high school, I ignored them. They go their attention & control by trapping & hurting me while others watched, and that attention gave them joy. My mom's advice, "ignore them & they will quit" to
I was bullied in high school also, I did ignore them and eventually they got tired and moved on to someone else. I will not indulge a bully. My experience was different.
Quite often bullies will only push further when ignored, sometimes they will quit. I was once bullied to the point that I skipped a couple weeks of school and almost flunked out despite having a great GPA prior to it.
It's good to see that many other people avoid negativity and those who bring pain to others. I have yet to see a bully that doesn't have many skeletons in their closet.
I avoid them or call them out. I am overly tolerant until I can't take any more and I make enough of a scene so they don't do it again. They know what they are doing is wrong b/c they most often won't allow it to be done to them.
Your approach is good, but often the situation is not one on one with a bully. They travel in packs, a leader and a follower. Cyber bulling has made the problem worse because the culprit cannot always be identified.
Larry Wall you are correct, they love bullying and harassing people online because they can hide their identities and if in person, they have to have bystanders who won't stand up to them to get their jollies.
I am totally with you. I know people who show compassion & by keeping the jerk close, the jerk gets info they otherwise wouldn't have and use it to their advantage. I associate with people who don't have negativity as a motive in their interactio
Awesome, sounds like your daughter is a trooper.
I may have failed to answer the question. I feel compassion for bullies. I assume they have a personal problem, an inferiority complex or were dealt their own tough had in life. I pray to be understanding that they have their own set of problems.
Everyone has problems but that doesn't excuse bullies/harassers of any age. Perhaps I am a "bad" person for avoiding these types at all costs or calling them out when needed. I can't show compassion to bullies but I do show compassion to many others.
I agree showing compassion is hard and that does not make you a bad person. The main thing to do is to never sink to their level. If you do, then they have won.