Their are different types of love, theirs agape love can be known only from actions it promotes and never ignores principle, like having love for your enemies.And phileo tender effection. Like for a friend or attached intrest romanticly. Love lies in who we are and how we tend to be. The most beautiful person can be ugly on the inside. I feel love lies in our heart condition. Thats why we should get to know someone before allowing feelings to creep in.