There seems to have been a growing trend in waiting these past few years and was just wondering if you didn't wait and had it to do over again would you wait until your wedding day, or did you wait and was it worth it? Do think it's more difficult for men or women? If you don't understand the question don't worry you'll figure it out later.
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If I am not mistaken, isn't your "partner" old enough to be your father? And, how has fornication forged you into a better person and solidified your relationship? This guy is clever: You are old enough to screw, but not good enough to marry.
He is not old enough to be my father. Because I am more sure of and have a better view of myself.
CJ What difference does it make how old he is and why it makes her stronger. Women who are confident with who they are and what they want intimately are always going to be more self confident and therefore stronger.
Is that what women should be striving for these days - confidence and strength? Instead, women should strive to be virtuous, moral, and modest! How many women do you think gain strength and confidence by becoming a man's bed buddy, but not his bride?
I'm married, have confidence, and strength. Women should want all three combined. To be honest, I would much rather be happy alone than be a friend of yours if you are that critical. You never even asked if I was married, just judged.
Good for you Iburmaster! Women need to be strong, have morals, a spiritual well being, and have self confidence (which I never said came from a bed buddy) Modesty is for those who lack confidence in what they do Humility a great asset, not CJ's
No, I did not judge you Iburmaster, I just took you at your word. In our society, "partner" is used to denote someone that is not a spouse. You used the term "partner" to describe your significant other, but should have used "marital partner" instead
That might be in your view of society but not mine. I use the word to include my husband explaining that we are facing the world together. Marriage is like a partnership and journey in my eyes. Plus marital partner seems so weird to say.
That's why people should attend pre-marital counseling and actually think about what they are getting into, but as things generally are, all they really want to get into is the bed. These kinds of people don't want answers....they want orgasms.
So, your husband's prize is getting a woman who has been around the block a few times - looking for love in all the wrong places? Great.
redheadnaturalist - your comment is great and makes sense.
@CJ Seriously your way of thinking of it as a prize won. is the biggest problem in society and nothing more than a way to feed your ego as if you had won a contest. Marriages without that compatibility results in cheating and disastrous results
Don't be sorry, you made some very good points and ones that will give those at the turning point a lot to think about. You will find the right one and when it is time you will be glad you made the choices you did. Thanks for sharing
Good point I guess I should have phrased the question as to when you were in a committed, monogamous relationship. Thank you OK so now that is taken care of, how do you feel about ?
The State no longer knows what marriage is, therefore their stamp of approval means nothing to me. Besides, a piece of paper is only as good as the words of those signing it. Too many people are sufficiently lacking in character and honor these days.
Sorry that happened to you...it must have been painful. You brought up a very good point about people who have been around the block a few times tend to compare and contrast. I think the more times a person has slept around the more they keep looking
i must admit, you may be onto somthing with that, a society that is consumer driven does seem to have carried the concept right into the bed these days.
Sexual compatibilty is silly? Do you believe everyone has the (same sex drive)? If someone wants sex 4 times a week and another is happy with 1 time a week over the course of a year thats 52 Vs 208 times! Some people like oral sex others don't...etc
So, if one party wants sex 4 times a week and the other party prefers sex once each week...then they must fornicate before marriage to figure this out? How does fornication serve a couple better than pre-marital counseling? P.M. sex has no advantages
If one is a virgin they have no idea what their sex drive is. You can't know whether you like something until you've experienced it. No matter how good "pre-marital counseling" is it's still hypothetical. What's right for one may be wrong for another
When I was a virgin, I knew my sex drive was hot and heavy. Even though I abstained for my first 24 years of life, no one had to tell me I would relish the love of a good woman. I mean, some things go without saying. Right is right and wrong is wrong
CJ, We are going to have to agree to disagree on this one! I still believe in individuality when selecting a spouse. Everyone has their own criteria. I don't believe all men & women are sexually compatible. You know what's right for (you). Great!