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Thank you lburmaster -this is a hard situation for the parents and the children- then the question comes up - should i disregard my happiness so my kids have a 2 parent home which society says is better than single parents raising their kids together
Part of your happiness should be seeing your children grow up in a two parent household. There are ways to work around an unhappy marriage. Try going to a marriage counselor just to see what is wrong in the relationship and work around the problems.
@Renee - yes, you should subjugate your happiness in favor of the kids. You are creating their past. We sacrifice on a daily basis for our kids and our joy and happiness comes from them growing to be well balanced happy adults.
I believe everyone is entitled to have "deal breakers". If your spouse is cheating on you, verbally abusive, or financially irresponsible. The lesson you're teaching your kids by staying isn't a positive one. Parents have to be on the same page.
I agree, dashingscorpio. But if there is no abuse or cheating, then they should stay together for the kids sake. Abuse and cheating are special circumstances.
Wow Lisa HW, thank you for your comment/testimony. It is amazing to me what the "outside world" does when they get involved in these situations.
Thank you kathleenkat for your comment. I think SELFLESS is the answer for this hub, it seems to be the majority answer.
Thank you dashingscorpio. I like your ending - we use the kids as an excuse. and i have always thought (as a product of divorced parents) you can't raise me to be happy if you aren't.
Thanks for your comment duffsmom. I wonder if it's easier if the parents just stay, whether they are happy or not so that there is less of a struggle for kids to grow up and do well in school and function "normally" because it is the ideal family.