@ReneeDC1979, it's easy to get discouraged, but you need to focus on the goal, not the present situation. Feel the accomplishment of the goal, acknowledging but not trapped by the current situation.
Live in love! Practice being in love. Act like you're in love. That will attract your mate. It worked for me.
I had tried for over a year without any luck, and I had been divorced for 12 years. Within a few days of my change of attitude, my Juvy first contacted me. Surprisingly, it was on my birthday, but I didn't respond for a little over a week. It was a little disconcerting, because she was 27 and I was 57, but after a few times online chatting, we were both hooked. Our personalities were dovetailed like perfection.
Watch the movie, "The Secret." Know that, with faith, anything you ask of God will be given to you. If you ask out of loneliness, you will get loneliness. If you ask with fear, you will get fear. But if you ask with love, you will get love.
Example of practice: answer your cell phone (even though no one called) and walk around the store talking to your lover -- your newlywed husband. See what I mean? It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks of you while you're living the life of love.
I think I hear wedding bells...