There are couples with different religious affiliation or the other one is not a believer. How important is this in a relationship?
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Is it really "mutual respect", Sid, or is it spiritual indifference or spiritual compromise?
Absolutely mutual respect. We can't be indifferent - we're both passionate. And we don't believe in compromise. We share the life and joy of one another's faiths. For us, it's not about being right or wrong, rather living in love & growing in tru
What differing faiths do the both of you subscribe to?
Primarily, I am a human being. I am a Buddhist minister, and a minister in an offshoot branch of Christianity. My wife is a Lutheran and a professor of Jewish Studies. She participated in my baptism, and I helped her learn to meditate.
The Holy Bible warns us not to be unequally yoked...but I see you have other plans.
You're right, I have a plan of living a happy marriage with the man who respects me no matter my beliefs. A better "Christian" than many who claim to be.
Better to stand for something...than to fall for anything.
Is that completely true? If he became a neo-Nazi, a Stalinist, or an anarchist supporting bombings towards overthrowing the government, that "does not matter" to you?
Sorry but the question is pertaining to religious affiliation as asked in the question.the question is not about political affilition as neo nazi stalinist or anarchy. Big difference between the two.
I see your point. But if your husband became a religious pro-life advocate who believed in killing doctors who performed abortions, or a radical Muslim encouraging suicide bombers, what them?
Fortunately, my husband does not comment nor engage in political and social discussions as neither topic is his interest. He is more focused on just being helpful , being kind and compassionate to anyone.That's his main interest.
Thanks for not being offended by my question, GlobeTrekkerMel. Your husband sounds like the Dalai Lama, "My religion is kindness."
Hi Sid,No problem at all.He really is a DALAI LAMA wanna be, LOL! And I am a lucky recipient of his kindness .:-)
You raise two key points, the argumentative mindset and the views of families. The Shared Heart is a wonderful book by a couple that came together from Jewish & Christian marriages before intermarriage was acceptable.
I think the problem is exacerbated if the parties have strong beliefs. Now, I can see if neither party is that commited to a particular belief system or faith, where they would be more permissive and flexible.
yes that is true. Im a pagan and my husband believes in something way different then I do..But we never fight over whose religion is the right one.
I don't see it so much a matter of strength of believe, as believing in the rightness of only one's own beliefs. My wife and I both hold strong beliefs, but we know that we see the truth "through a glass, darkly" and make room for differences.
Quite sad you feel that way!
Please feel sadness for those who have incompatibility issues looming on the near horizon. Who knows, you may be one of them.
I respect your opinion. It may even be true sometimes or even often. But not all the time: My wife and I have been growing in love for over 25 years, better and better.
I feel sad that anyone would assume that religion would have to be a factor that leads to failing. It's equal to saying two people of opposite race can't make it. It's sad that anyone would ignore love and expect fail based on one difference.
Peeples said, "I feel sad that anyone would assume that religion would have to be a factor that leads to failing." Really? Please consider the political relations and dynamics of the Middle East. Marriages are no different. Beliefs are a HUGE factor.
Risky approach at best, Jeff. The Bible instructs us not to be unequally yoked. So, in this stead, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, especially when dealing with human relations of any sort.
What if you are really both in love with one another CJ?
Hope it's okay if I chime in, CJ & JThomp. I would agree with CJ that it's risky. But so is all Love. Jesus took risks sharing God's Love as a Jew, and Paul took risks to share that Love with pagan Romans and Greeks. You might read The Shared Hea
In my marriage we were both Christians and shared the same beliefs, went to church every Sunday. So, this wasn't an issue when it came to our divorce. Her dishonesty ended our marriage. So, two can yoke together and still fail. Unfortunately.
Perhaps the most important yoke is not our beliefs, but our keeping of the universal Truths of the Commandments. Not lying, not stealing, not committing adultery are all supports of a happy marriage, whether one learns them as a Jew, Xtian or Budhist
Jeff...people can fall in love with just about anyone (at any time). All they need is opportunity. It is important to look beyond the warm emotion of "love" and scrutinize their character. You may have become one in marriage, but not in principle.