I've been with my husband 8 years, a week and a half ago was our 6 year marriage anniversary. We have been through almost everything a relationship can go through. We are currently in separate states due to financial issues. Me with family and him with friends. On our anniversary this year he wouldn't make time to talk to me and suggested we no longer be together. Angry, I huffed an agreement thinking that this time would be like the others. Unfortunately... it isn't so. I'm in so much pain I don't know what to do with myself. How do you get over someone you spent almost a decade with?
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I'm so sorry to hear of your misery, but am glad to hear of your gradual recovery. By the way, he is exactly the same man you married, but opportunities presented themselves which allowed him to seize the day. He probably always lacked a moral spine.
There are some wounds that time cannot heal. :0)
No, it wasn't, it meant that we've been through almost everything, good and bad. Our children's births, finding out about our son's autism, deaths in the family, cheating, etc. The good and the bad. I thank you, however, for taking the time to read.
Thanks for the additional explanation. However I'd say a lot of people would consider cheating to be "drama" as well as being a "deal breaker". It's rare for couples to solve their problems (living apart). You may be right about him dating again.
Just know that I feel your pain, too, for I have already walked in your shoes and have seen the rising sun. Best wishes and be well - C.J.
P.S. I'll be here if you want to talk further. Sometimes talking about things helps the healing process along.
Anaydena - it was not all for nothing. You have 3 wonderful children who need you. And believe it or not that last decade will be a learning experience once the pain lessens and you can feel again.
Great point, Duffsmom. My love for the Almighty and my precious children kept me going...even when I felt so alone.
Thank you... I think that could help. Thank you.