It used to be the 'rule' that you broke up with a boyfriend or girlfriend in person, out of respect for the relationship you once had. Now, however, people also break up by phone, through email or even by texting. What do you think? Have you ever done this?
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I think you listed good reasons to break up from afar rather than in person, Levertis. Yes, it can be appropriate to break up without doing it in person.
Good thoughts. My initial resonse to this question was no because of poor etiquette but your answer has made me re-think. Thanks.
I like your point about the guiding force being the comfort level of the one ending the relationship, DashingScorpio - I agree. I confess I've ended at least a few relationships by phone or email. Sometimes it was due to distance, but not always.
Wouldn't you agree it depends on the person/situation you're dealing with? A person with a history of domestic violence is (smart) to distance them self from their abuser. I say trust your instincts. Better to be a live coward than a dead fool. LOL!
I can see why it would seem cowardly in a situation where both parties were normal, but I do see dashingscorpio's point when circumstances are otherwise!
Oh boy, have times ever changed, fpherj! I think there are differences based on the age group you're in, too. Dating in teens & 20s is different than when you're older. And I've heard many stories of people meeting scary characters online.
Also we must keep in mind that many couples today (meet) online and they probably feel it is okay to end things that way as well.
I suspect oftentimes breakups via email/text were not "serious" to begin with. In fact this usually happens after only a handful of casual dates. It seems like people want to "control" how they get dumped or have the chance to (change) his/her mind.
The end results are the same when you think about it. There is nothing your ex could say that would make you "feel better" about having your heart broken. If it was only a "casual dating" situation then it shouldn't matter much.
I think you highlighted one point that's very important, Li - whether a relationship is committed or just casual/new. I should have specified that the break-ups I mentioned were new, not long-term. But some were also psychos - do I get double points?
You make a lot of sense! The majority of these types of breakups are done between teenagers. It's rare anyone breaks up this way who has been in a long-term or deeply committed relationship. Most people are responding from the (being dumped) view.
Yes, strictlydating - some people want to know the 'reasons,' but I'm not sure it's wise to do that. Relationships are two-way (or else they aren't relationships), so if it's not a fit for one party, it's no longer two-way.
I don't think too many people care about what their ex thinks of them. LOL! This is especially true if it was simply a casual dating scenario.
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JThomp42 - I wonder if guys view it differently than women at times? Maybe it's one thing to do a disappearing act, or avoid a person-to-person discussion to avoid an awkward scene. But I do see the points others have made about safety issues, etc.
Jodi Arias killed Travis Alexander for wanting to breakup with her! She shot him in the face, cut his throat from ear to ear and stabbed him 27 times! He should have broke up via text or email. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/02/jodi-aria
I don't think a lack of confidence in a decision is the cause for people wanting to avoid a face to face talk regarding not seeing one another especially if they were (casually dating). Most of them don't want to deal with "drama" that's my guess.