Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. If you aren't happy with (your choice) you always have the option of making another one! The only person you can control is you.
It takes courage to look at the truth of a situation and make a change
It takes patience and tolerance to accept people as they are.
There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships; we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Best of luck!