Early on when couples first start dating and become sexually intimate they tend to go to bed together even if they're just going to sleep. If you have been married for several years or in a long-term (live-in) relationship, have you found that the two of you (more often than not) go to bed separately? If so, why is that?
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"Most people I know go to bed separately." I tend to agree with your answer Relationshipc! In fact I have found many that do go to bed together still do not turn out the lights or TV and "call it a night" (together). One of them reads or watches TV.
Lady Summerset, Thanks for your answer but I was curious about (you). Do or Did you and your mate go to bed separately? Do you think it is fairly (common)? or Does this only happen when there are problems in the relationship?
Yes, we do after 14 years of marriage. Even with his sleep apnea, that presented a huge problem because it kept me up, I discovered that I needed to fall asleep before he did so I could rest in order to maintain a marital bed.
There's no right or wrong rules - it's what works for you. If one person feels there is a problem - well, that is a whole different issue.
Good suggestons. However I'm trying to find out if this is "normal". Do (you) or Did (you) and your mate go to bed separately most of the time? :-)
However, there are many reasons why couples may go to bed separately. Work schedules, illness, or perhaps one needs to finish a work project or view a special show later than usual. Going to bed separately is not always a sign of trouble.