Got a call from a friend that this was just dropped in her lap. Her mom plays with girls and is buying a house with her girlfriend.
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Great outlook. We need more of your understanding and compassion in this world of hatred and intolerance.
Unfortunately many people repress their true selves 4 years due 2 the way society treats gay people. Happiness only comes when we R who we R truly meant 2 B by our birthright. Sad.
I don't see the point in repressing so I wouldn't understand why the family and children exist if they felt that way. It doesn't make sense in my mind. They got in too deep and screwed themselves over by putting themselves in that position.
repression is not a conscious choice. Neither is being gay. But societal punishment is a powerful motivator for repression. Life is never all simply black or white. Fear & guilt R main causes of repression.
If someone is emotionally intelligent, they can tell if they are repressing or not. Black and white, rules are there for reasons. If your morals are sound, you will respect those around you and be true to yourself before digging a pit.
hiding who U R from ur self has nothing 2 do with morals. No 1 chooses 2 B who they R born 2 B. But when society tells U what U R is a sin against God long enough, repression kicks in. this leads 2 fear/guilt & inability 2 accept what U R.
You should consider checking out the film "Beginners". It features a young man (Ewan McGregor) who, after the death of his mother, is shocked to learn that his elderly father (Christopher Plummer) is gay. I think it handles the subject nicely.
Iburmaster - it's not that they "discover" it at 50yr old. Some do. Some don't - they married because that was what was done in those days - being gay was illegal/mentally unwell until about the 1980s. So many parents are old enough to come out now.
iburmaster: 1 last comment 2 U. If U truly feel this animosity toward others who R different than you, U might want 2 re-evaluate ur religious beliefs or seek some personal counseling. It is unhealthy 2 harbor animosity toward others.
It's not about what people expect for you to do. It's about what you feel. If you don't think marriage isn't right for you, don't do it. Simple as that. They lied to themselves and are stuck. Your not going to change my mind.
I cannot change anyone's mind, but i can certainly feel sorry for your cynicism. It can only hurt you in the end. Understanding, tolerance and forgiveness are virtues, cynicism is not.
I've grown up in a Christian Baptist viewpoint. If someone is viewed as same-sex relationship, they are basically ignored. If one of my parents said they were gay, it would be saying they are the anti-Christ. The other would commit suicide.
WOW I am so sorry to hear about ur upbringing. that kind of child abuse is inexcusable by any standards. http://youtu.be/gHbYJfwFgOU I hope this short video helps.
Oh, that idiot. I watched and loved him as a child and now am embarrased of him. And if Bill says it, it must be true. Sense the sarcasm. Don't try to change my belief's and leave the situation alone. You're picking too many fights.
Not trying to pick fight. but i now understand your 'sign in' name: ''I be your master'' pity the husband and the children for they be the next generation of the mentally abused
You are picking fights on at least three different topics and I'm tired of it. Bye.
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I've grown up in a Christian Baptist viewpoint." Ah! So you are trapped. Trapped by that upbringing - belief in a petty, diminished, judgmental god. No further thinking permitted.
Trapped and happy to be.
I think I'd be ashamed to have parented such a child. You would ignore them regardless of what they have up for you? Seems selfish to me.
If they cared about me, my siblings, and themselves; they wouldn't have put me in that position. Actually, they are proud. My mom said, "a black man had the gall to ask you out on campus?!", on my first day at the university. My family is my family.
All I hear is me me me from this. If they cared about me, questioning how I got here. Wouldn't you care about their happiness? They can be proud and good for them. It's just I wouldn't be - I was brought up not to think of only my needs.
They can be happy all they like. Just leave me out of it.
Iburmaster - re-read your comment - selfish much? Again, I'd be ashamed. But thanks - I now know how not to bring up my children.
Actually, I told and showed my parents this question and the responses. They are proud :) To each their own.
Exactly. I'm not saying they shouldn't be. Just that I wouldn't be. If you are happy - I'm happy for you. It's merely my opinion on the matter. And yes, to each their own.
But they do say the best relationships are made in Heaven, .... don't they?
But there is not much fun goes on up there.... all straight lace, and all that.
Raster - it wasn't really judgement. More an opinion on what she said. I'm happy for her either way - it's just not the way I was brought up and it grated at me. My apologies. It was an interesting and thought provoking question. Thanks!