Lots of men tell me they dislike Valentine's Day and that they would rather skip it. To the men out there . . . what do you dislike most about Valentine's Day?
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Good points to consider...celebrate your way and everyday!
Testify, M.C.S, testify!!! :0)
There's not even an unwritten law that says you must give roses, or anything red, but I very much appreciate that you chose to rant here and share your thoughts. More men should be as candid. Thank you.
Ha -you hit nail on the head there..
In fact some men are jerks and the word love never passes their lips let alone influences their behavior. So glad to know you aren't one of them. I'm not sure uniqueness is as important as just making a small gesture-- or create your own tradition.
I guess one has to wonder why a woman would emotionally invest in a jerk or man that never tells her he loves her? By uniqueness, I believe everyone appreciates something different. Doing the same thing each year loses it's impact. :-)
Au fait: It is widely known that men are the real romantics of the species. Women, in general, do little or next to nothing in this department. Many of them think giving sex qualifies for romance or at least it is the easiest thing they can think of.
Au faite,yes but the same also goes for some women as well.
Appreciate your response. Is it always necessary to buy something? There are many ways to show your love and I think some of the best ones do not involve money. Have a special dinner at home. Turn off the phone and have some quality time . . .
I agree. It's the constant ads that bother me. I feel the need to make one comment, that waiting for Valentines day to make a special dinner for someone is a mistake that men make. That needs to be done on non holidays, and not as an apology.
It IS called St. Valentine's Day, but most of us shorten it because life is speeding by all the time so we are always looking for shortcuts. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Indeed. There are "givers" and there are "takers" and we know which way it usually plays out. As the Book of Proverbs says, "There is nothing new under the sun."
Glad to know that you are able to enjoy it without allowing other people to dictate to you how you should celebrate it!
No one ever spent $300 on me for Valentine's Day, nor do I know anyone who was so spoiled. I would like to hope the self-centeredness of the women you overheard talking was the exception. Thank you for your thoughts.
It is not the exception...it is the rule. Years and years of programming have led many women to believe that they are the "have all end all" of human existence. Valentine's Day is just another day and another way our society worships women.
CJ you are so right about the ,"He gets me" I've heard women say this as well. Once I was shopping @ Circuit City and one female co-worker told another, "I need to find a man to pay my bills". I said what does he get? She said: "He gets me." LOL!
Right you are, Dashing!!! Many American women have been socialized into thinking they are the gift that keeps on giving. They think they are soooo special that offering you a smile is worth millions. I don't think the world has ever seen such egos.
CJ, $300 sounds about right! ($75 for long stem roses (plus $20 for delivery) to make her co-workers envious, $45 for a "nice box" of chocolates $7 for a large heart shaped balloon, $7 for a greeting card, $150 for dinner at a "nice" restaurant +gift
Dashing: Sounds like allot of trouble to go through just to get served divorce papers within the first 5 years of marriage. This self esteem junk they have been preaching to women the past few decades is killing all the romantic feelings men have.
LOL I thought the head blonde was saying to her colleagues that she was going to do your hair and I was waiting with baited breath to see whether she shaved your head or what? silly me....
Indeed...I was lucky to make it out of there alive and with my head still intact. :0)
I promise not all of us woman are so self centered and conceited. My husband and I treat our selves as a couple - we plan a nice dinner at a fancy restaurant and skip the flowers and candy. He tells me everyday how much he loves me and I reciprocate.
CJ Sledgehammer, I suggest you go to a regular baber shop next time, or don't go so close to FAD. Good thinking...leaving before you were up.
CJ, Several years ago there was a book titled: "Women who love too much" I have yet to bump into a man who has met one of these women. LOL! (A 5 year marriage is a lifetime in Hollywood). They say it is better to have loved and lost, then not love
I think a far more accurate title would have been "Women Who Obsess Too Much". I think I have met many more women in my lifetime that are obsessive and controlling than are truly loving. I think they sometimes think these terms are interchangable.
I don't think love is artificial for very many women. Any act of love is only as artificial as you choose to make it. Do you think it's artificial to celebrate someone's existence on their designated birthday instead of a day of your own choosing?
The people can celebrate their first day when they approached each other or some their special days. I don't want to seem rude but how can we celebrate others birthday as own?
No one has said anything about celebrating someone's birthday as their own. You don't seem rude. You seem not to understand English very well. ;)
You sound as if you have no control over commercialization. No one can take the meaning out of anything for you unless you let them. Read my hub on Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays. Thank you for your sharing your thoughts.
Yes, I have complete control over it. Say for instance, normally you can buy a dozen red roses for around$40, during Valentines they are around $80 or more. No, I will not fall into that trap.