"Sometimes you think it is important what others think of you, and so you work to extract approval from them. However, there really is little that you can do to keep their approval coming - for it is never about you, but about them." - Abraham
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There is always a "learning" or "knowing" when we look at ourselves. Prolonged attention will ultimately prove how we receive others is actually how we feel about ourselves...good or bad. Thanks for commenting.
Withholding praise from a child can often make us feel self conscious. It did for me. I too, received little praise from my mother and I often wondered why. Needless to say it took me an awfully long time to figure it out. Happily, I did too!
I might have guessed this would be your answer. Thing is your humility has always shown through. That's because you A R E you. For many of us life provides these realizations through life lessons. Some of us are still in school...but learning!
There is probably nothing better than to be true to yourself. Many of us are still working on that! Keep it up!
wow -you truly choose no independence? none of my business, but interesting. My husband would never dream of controlling me or having to give me permission for every move I make. I couldn't deal with that at all.
I agree with Christin. My wife has the right to her own choices, even the ones I may not agree with and she is responsible for her own actions, even the ones that affect us both. I trust her because I know she trusts herself. Peace be with you!
Peach.. taking a wild guess that you are of Asian origin.I say that merely becuz, there hasn't been an American woman, in 75 years, who would tolerate such "rabid control," by a husband or ANY man! Hope U R at least happy, though not free to be you.
Unfortunately, I know one non-Asian woman in USA forced to live by the same rules and at her husband's death after 25 years' marriage, she was unable to make decisions, pay bills, buy gasoline, and it's even worse 3 years later. Very bad show.
So right Cordelia! Often our need for approval from others lies in our sense of lack in ourselves. Again, still learning! Thank you for your input and honesty!
I agree with your entire comment! I went through a phase where I wanted approval but now it doesn't matter anymore and I know this change came from self approval.
It is so important to know, like and love who we are....sometimes not an easy lesson to learn.....but, one well worth learning!