When you stop looking for answers in spite of being in a stable relationship. When you stop feeling lonely or awake with fears and worry about tomorrow. When you are possessed by a burning desire to offer up your life as a sacrifice for others without fear, and yet see the need for wanting to live, if only to serve.
When unconditional service gives you tremendous joy, and Something prompts you to offer it to us humans anyway, without conditions, even if we spitefully use you and remain ungrateful.
When there is no bartering and your only aspiration is to love for love's sake with calmness, equanimity, serenity and purpose, and maintaining this state even if bombs or disasters were happening all around you. When you seek nothing for your yourself but to do God's Will, whatever She asks.
Please don't tell me that this is impossible, or the men and women of God would have come in vain. Happy Valentines!!