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A very well thought out and well considered answer. I applaud you lady, what a brave lady! We only have one life and with a only a short one left, we should make the most of it in that situation. I appreciate that! Definitely a thumbs up for me.
That is very reassuring JimYxMiller - it is said sometimes that men find illness more difficult to cope with. especially when extra housework and caring for the children and the sick wife can get hard to cope with. Perhaps that is just here-say
I second the thanks Cantuhearmescream. I am so grateful to you and to all the people who have thus far responded. I just realized that you have all helped to restore my faith in humanity.
It was a great question and even Better answers! Today is a good day.
Though I respect what you said, I still would say that love is a choice. We can be 'in love' and fall 'in love', but feelings are not all there is to love.
I also respect what you said and I can agree to a certain extent. But I don't know that we can control our love; we control what we do with it. Say we love someone that is unhealthy for us, we either choose to stay or we choose to leave.
Though I can see your point we can begin down a path with a decision. Though we may not feel love for someone when we decide to love them, & then add action to that love, often times that will trigger feelings. Also, love is more than a feeling.
You're right that love is more than a feeling. If any relationship is going to thrive there has to be more than just feeling love. It absolutely has to be shown. Love is not just a feeling but an ACTION as well.
Great thought! I totally agree.
It definitely does help larakern. I believe your Mum was a great example for all of us to follow. Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by.
I had understood that Lyme disease is a bacterial infection that is spread to humans by infected ticks. I became interested in it when I was bitten by a non infected tick.recently. I am sad for your situation but reassured by your love and faith.
Hello sarahmoose, It is wonderful to see such devotion and a great example for us to follow - though I hope that you never have to - thank you for taking the time to answer this question.
I offer you a cyber-hug. Obviously you are a very strong, couragous woman for what you have been through. I hope you find a way to see the sun in every day.
May this new phase of your life be filled with great supportive friends and lots of love and kindness, you deserve it! My best wishes to you tenderLaine
Thank you for sharing your story. I have worked with people with dementia and have a little experience of Alzheimer's . I have some understanding of your situation. How wonderful for your husband to have such a supportive and loving wife.
Lovely to hear that there are people such as yourself with a high value placed on loyalty and love. Thank you for your response.
FanOfStuff My deepest sympathies for your loss and thank you so much for taking the time to stop by. Sally
Hello Elderberry, I am sorry to hear that you and your boys have health issues. Take comfort in the fact that life is full of surprises, often some great ones. Mr Right will probably turn up when you are least expecting it.!! Blessings.
Interesting, it seems that perhaps for some people they have underlying problems in the relationship and the illness just becomes their excuse to move on.
I've actually seen it the other way around where a person was planning to end a relationship and an illness or some other catastrophe caused them to (stay) out of "sympathy" or not wanting to look bad. Some of these people end up having affairs.
Juliet Christie - I think you have made a very valid point here and I agree with you completely, a sexually transmitted disease received from someone outside of the relationship would pose a problem for most people. Thanks for your comment.
Wonderful, a man in a million! You are truly blessed to have each other.
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on this question.
Best wishes, Voted up, Sally
janetwrites, It really is great to realize that good old fashioned values still reign - thank you so much for your response, it is much appreciated!
I would say if in doubt, it would be best to talk things over. So often we assume we know best. We will never know if we are right, unless we talk about it. Such a major decision I believe needs honesty from both sides. Thanks for your response.
Hello Hamda Aslam Khan, A lovely and caring response to this difficult question. I love the idea of creating memories for people, a sense of humor helps to keep things on an even keel.
Thank you so much for your comment.
I completely agree with you Sojourner1234, seems like it is just too easy to chuck in the towel when you develop problems. Sad as sometimes you don't know what you have lost until it is gone! Thanks for stopping by.
Hi lisauniquevoice, I can't imagine it myself. I guess I have come to realize that life is never as simple as it seems. We are all unique and have our own different lives to lead.. Thank you for your comment, I appreciate your stopping by
Knowing that you did everything you could is certainly worth holding onto. As we see from other comments, sometimes there are reasons not to, perhaps there simply is not one answer for all. Thanks for your comment DexisView
AIDS or not; if my husband had been sleeping with different people very week of our marriage, I wouldn't have any compassion. Why would you after the betrayal, deceit and lack of respect of the marriage and spouse?
Hi Silverspeeder, a very interesting perspective. Having spent most of my life in Africa where Aid is rife, I understand completely and I completely agree with you about AIDS and infidelity. Without hesitation I would leave him. Thank you so much.
I agree with you sentiments about one life, How we choose to live it is definitely up to each individual. Society does judge us and that is something we all have to live with too. Thanks for your comment.
Hi Keraladishes, It seems that nearly everyone feels this way but that difficult circumstances can make it impossible for them to stay. They need our understanding and sympathy. Thanks for you comment.
So kind of you to take so much care with your response. I would never judge anyone for their decision and I do sympathy with anyone finding themselves in this position. So lovely to know people truly care. Thanks.
Thanks for your comment kyawnaing, it really is nice to know that there are people who care about others