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Any relationship can be repaired if needed, attitude is important. Both parties have to we will to give, be unselfish and humble. There is a frustrating of plans when there is no confidential talk, good,
positive communication is important .
I agree with you, Dashing. I, too, think "communication" is probably not the main problem. Is it important? Of course it is, but I think its importance is overstated compared to more pressing issues. In my mind, self-centeredness is the main culprit.
Good stuff, Brittles...you go girl!!! :0)
Amen to that! Too many people are in relationships for the wrong reasons. Everything comes fairly naturally if it's real.
Right on, Brittles!!! :0)
JamieD: I think you got it girl!!! When one chooses the right mate everything seems to come easy. The right mate should make one whole not make one work. It seems like work only to those couples who are not a good match.
It takes work to have and keep a strong marriage, you can' leave anything to chance.
Claudia: I think that marriage seems like work to those who choose the wrong mate. If two people are equally yoked and have leaved and cleaved and became one flesh as the Bible says, how can that be considered "work"? Wrong partner = lots of work.
Thanks for your comment about emotions, great input.
Hope for Happiness? Many people hope for things in marriage and when they don't get it they become discouraged and depressed. In my mind one shouldn't hope for something when they can be assured of it beforehand. Too many people rush into marriage.
Good stuff, FM! In my mind, a good marriage shouldn't require work. I hear couples talk ad naseum about how hard it is to maintain a marriage. Too many people choose the wrong mate and then labor in vain trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
You are right both parties have to be willing to repair the marriage, many marriages fail because one or the other party does not want to make it work.
You have to be willing to forgive, and be humble. Blending lives is not easy, it can be done.
Claudia: You are right...it takes a committed husband and wife to make a marriage successful, but it only takes one to destroy it.
Great input, when God is the third person in your marriage, the marriage will be a happy one, because the couple will follow his guidance.
Amen! The number one cause for divorce is and always has been (selecting the wrong mate!). It's key to share the same values, want the same things, agree on how to obtain them, and feel MUTUAL love and respect for each other. Love the attorney line!
It comes down to mistaking lust... for love.
Right you are Brittles! I wish I had a dollar for every time someone told me they were "in love" or were in this super amazing relationship but have been screwing like rabbits all along. It just invalidates the whole thing...at least it does for me.
Well said and well done, Lastheart...I could not agree with you more. To God be the glory!!! :0)
Good thoughts, since God is the creator of marriage, bringing the man and women together as stated in the Bible book of Genesis, he is the one that can show us how to have a happy marriage, but here again both parties need to follow his direction.