I enjoy my own company and I have so many crafts and hobbys that I love. Being alone is not a bad thing to me. I have three children and as we prepare to send the last one off to college my mind races with all the wonderful moments of solitude in my future. Being in a bad relationship is not an option for me. Why do I know so many women and men who would rather be miserable in a bad relationship than to be alone?
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As a survivor of domestic violence I can relate to "self esteem destroyed, unable to support financially and staying with what you know". But at the end of the day this life is too short to be afraid and miserable. I think it slowly kills you. Dee
Thank you for your input. This is indeed a difficult topic to broach with some. But I get asked about it often. I don't mind eating out alone, going to the movies etc. I am both introverted (an only child for ten years) & an extrovert. Dee
Very true. Even though you can always go out to be social or have people in. Often people who are "together" don't spend quality time together when it's a bad relationship. Dee
Boy and I thought I was brutally honest. I think we have to tell them the truth while trying not to alienate them. They have to be able to come to us knowing we will also be supportive. Dee
I've tried being blunt and honest. She still will not follow my suggestions, but she admits my reasons are correct.
That is the most frustrating situation. I often have to say "don't ask ME" if you aren't willing to hear the truth. And "don't waste my time" if you aren't going to start making a change. After that becomes obvious I refuse to keep talking about it.
Ah, see I just give in to the insanity. Always saying the same thing. But I try not to converse with her too much. Repeat means the friendship isn't going anywhere so everyone tends to ignore them and leave them alone. Then they cry about that too.
It's very true that the people and systems you have been taught to trust can support the institution of marriage even when it's full of poison. But from personal experience I know you can be in so much pain, self doubt, confusion you don't/cant hear
I have been single a few times at New Years and I always believed it meant someone wonderful was coming that year. I find the bar at places like Red Lobster are a good place to eat alone, occasionally catch a good game and meet interesting people.
Yes and I think staying in a bad relationship can keep you from finding the person out there who is truly meant for you. Dee
I disagree, an abusive relationship tainted by drugs, alcohol and or physical abuse is a bad relationship. How you react is secondary to the "status" of it. You are so right about us all having a purpose. Too many don't have a clue. Thanks. Dee
@sexyladyee. Bad relation for the person who receives abuses and all, but good for the person who is taking all his feelings out, I just generalized the word "" reaction"", if some one truly loves you then they can't hurt you much longer!!!