“Sometimes, the only soul that can mend a broken heart is the one that broke it. For they are the ones holding all the pieces.”
― Patti Roberts, The Angels Are Here
Our friends here at Hubpages have offered compassionate advice and on a human level I would agree. However, on a soul level please allow me to offer a slightly different possibility.
Life, is full of paradox. Because you are one aspect of a collective consciousness or "soul" what we give away or withhold is given to or withheld from ourselves in a sense. We are all connected.
Granted, the emotional pain makes the phenomena of love seem awfully real. But I would suggest that you are still very much in control. Who else feels exactly what you feel, the way you feel it? Who's in there with you?
The paradox here, in my humble opinion, is that you still possess all the pieces. As in the quote above, you are the only one who can mend the broken heart as you are still holding all of the pieces. They were never really given away. How do I know? Honestly ask yourself this question. If I knew, before I entered this relationship that my heart and soul would be "ripped to shreds," would I give them to you anyway? If the answer is anything but yes, your gift was with condition and therefore you are withholding the pearls so to speak. If the answer is no, what was it you giving away?
Practically speaking, we all experience this emotional nightmare and my fellow hubsters are correct, time will heal all wounds. This is just the brief opinion of one human. I hope this gives you a different perspective, at least, and some food for thought about the nature of our relationships with other humans and the power we have over the most difficult relationship of all...the one with ourselves!
Peace be with you!