Marriage is a form of control, if couples let it that way. But what are the circumstances in your married life that made you think and feel you are being controlled by your partner? One I can think of is when your partner nags about your time spent with your friends. What else?
sort by best latest
God point, there, dashingscorpio! No one should be doing against what you are unless it's for the better. It's like asking your partner to quit smoking (although he likes it) because of health yet there you are sitting all day without doing anything!
Oh my, such a sad marriage story. It's amazing you even lasted for 15 years, that too, with a kid. Nothing like that should happen. No one should be allowed to be treated that way. No one has the right to control just because you are married!
What if you want to try a different restaurant this time and your partner sticks to the old one and he/she has a preconception that it's not a good one? What to do?
Oh new restaurants are easy to talk him into. He loves trying new places to eat. But most restaurants, he already knows about. If I really want to try a new place that he doesn't like, I get a female friend and go on a girls night out.
I read that article and I feel sad. I mean, some people would not just believe until they see a clear evidence and not until you yourself are broken! And indeed, admitting (from both side)that there is a problem is the first step to solve the problem
Like I said, marriage need not be a form of control if you don't let it happen like that but as far as I can observe and witness marriage has become and still is a form of control among many couples! You know,not letting you do what you want to do!
What you said is true! Marriage is never a control if you see it, make it as partnership. And yes, communication is very important in any relationships, which, of course needs open-mindedness!
Ahh, those are the worse. Resorting to crying (mostly among women) whenever a fault or mistake or misbehavior is pointed out is I think another form of control.